Something just doesn’t feel right anymore. You came home tonight and found something off, it doesn’t feel like home any more. Maybe it never did.
This is how many people feel about their homes. They hate to be home and find themselves going out, often. Home becomes the place they dread being. They go out to eat, meet up with friends at the bar or clubs, look for a movie to attend. All these things add up and do nothing to solve the problem that is driving them out of their home.
After having gotten rid of more than three-fourths of my belongings and moving into my studio apartment, I found myself enjoying my new home so much I decided to write a book showing how to make the home you currently live in your dream home.
The problem with writing a book about this subject is two-fold. First, it’s been done before, many times before. But most importantly, from my point of view it doesn’t take an entire book to show someone how to create a comfortable space, for next to nothing.
The condensed version is basically this:
You are not living in a movie or magazine spread. You are living your life and need to decide what that is.
To take it a bit more in depth, we have gotten to a point where we are influenced by what we watch and what we see and think this is something to aspire to. Wrong. We are each individuals who need to be surrounded by what makes us feel comfortable.
These steps will show you how to create your home, your place of belonging, the extension of you.
- Put away the folder where you have been saving all the clippings of your dream home
- Turn off Pinterest for a bit
- Grab a cup of tea or glass of wine and a pad of paper and pen.
- Sit in the room that bugs you the most, the one that doesn’t feel comfortable to you
- Look around objectively.
- Now write down everything you like about the room
- On a separate column or another page write down what you don’t like.
- This is your blueprint
This is all you need. You will keep what you love and change what you don’t. I know that sounds too easy, but it really is that easy. Changing your home to match who you are is as easy as shopping your own home. Don’t like the couch, is it the color? Dig through your extra blankets and toss one you love over it, add a pillow if you feel it needs it. A pillow covered with a shirt you love but maybe never wear.
Get rid of what doesn’t fit. Now do this for every room in your home. Don’t worry if your home wouldn’t end up in a magazine. I bet if you had all the elements of a room you saw in a magazine you would end up feeling uncomfortable in that home. They are devoid of personalization. They are staged for the camera. No real person lives there.
I know, you’ve seen the spread of your favorite blogger and love the home. Want to know a secret, even their home, to be featured in that magazine, had a creative designer arrive with a car full of accessories which replaced the homeowners belongings for the shoot.
Quit measuring your home by some ideal and make your home and extension of yourself.