My son and his wife shared with me their good news this week. They feel they are where they need to be financially to add a second child to their family, (which they plan to be their last). I am happy for them but shocked by how much it costs to have a child today. I’m not talking about the cost of raising a child from birth to age 18, but the cost of birthing.
You may laugh when I tell you that when my son met his wife she informed him she wanted at least 8 babies. She loved children! While my son loved children as well, he didn’t want 8. He saw the practicalities of having such a large family and the hours he would have to work to support that many children the way he would want to. He listed all his reasons for not wanting such a large family, from the size of the home, costs of groceries that would be needed, even down to the size of vehicle they would have to drive. In the end the two of them decided 3 children would be the proper number for them to have.
Once their daughter was born they reevaluated their decision of more children and decided 2 would be even better, although my son is holding out insisting if they have 2 girls he “might’ want to try one last time for a boy, but tells me he really does want to stop at 2 children.
Their decision to have a first child came after they were comfortable with the idea of living on one income to avoid split schedules or some sort of child care costs. The decision to have a second child was put on hold until my son was able to find more free time to enjoy and participate in the raising of their family. This was done by changing his career. He became a licensed real estate agent who also handles property management. This work is flexible enough to let him set his own hours and work mostly from home. When he was comfortable with that income he stepped down from his management position in retail sales to part-time sales of only 20 hours a week which guarantees him and his family of a quality health package. Yes, he is very fortunate to have found a company that provides full medical for their part-time employees. :-)
While I could write an entire post on population I thought instead I would share this infographic with you on the cost of childbirth. I was shocked when I witnessed first-hand the way childbirth is handled today in the hospitals when their first child was born. The amount of drugs that are pushed on the mother in a time when the last thing she wants to be doing is making decisions was in my opinion not a good thing. While they explored the idea of a home birth my daughter-in-law wasn’t comfortable in the end with this choice. If she will consider it again this time I don’t yet know.
What is missing in this infographic is the cost of the drugs that are used. The practice of administering a spinal block as soon as the woman arrives is now common practice and with the block comes the need for more drugs to prevent the labor from stalling. This is constantly increased as the hours drag on. Everything involving the drugs is monitored on a computer, which I can only assume the cost of which is passed on to the family in the end.
If you have any tips on keeping the cost of pregnancy and birthing down please share in the comments I’d like to be able to pass them on to my son and his wife.
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